One Rotten Apple Spoils the Whole Bunch… Baby!
July 23, 2008
One Rotten Apple Spoils the Whole Bunch… Baby!
It seems to me that bad attitudes compound faster than credit card interest. I know from personal interaction that whenever I speak to people and especially when I do a one-on-one consulting job a good attitude spreads very quickly. A few motivational quotes, some positive words, a plan, the method and the means in which to succeed help in spreading the good mood and Ya-ttitudeTM around quickly. People really do want their worlds and their lives to be 
better and will grasp the Ya-ttitudeTM of positive life with both hands or embrace it wide arms wide-spread. I can vouch for it; I have seen it; and I live it every day.
There is still just one thing that is much more contagious than good attitude is and that is a bad attitude and negative attitudes. I really do have trouble understanding it. Is it “fashionable” or “cool” to be negative? My guess is that you can make many more “wise-guy-” or “smart-ass-” style comments while you are trying to show off your cool new negativity. Do they look smart? Do they think they look smart because they can argue the “negative” side of a conversation or drag someone down to their level? I am sure they believe they are - at least in their own eyes and mind. And then the mob-mentality takes over and each negative comment and commentator is busy trying to outdo the other.
I was recently part of a post-submission on Digg.com and it seemed that the submission got so hot that it hit the front page as a very popular piece. In order to get to the front page of Digg.com the piece has to be liked and voted on by quite a few people. So it was quite obvious that the article or the topic or something had the Diggers digging away; and then it went popular and hit the front page. A few people commented and then one or two made what they deemed funny but degrading comments on the topic and the writer and then the mob-mentality took over. And they had a blast with it - each negative comment trying to out do the other, and each time someone questioned the attitude or the reasoning they got blasted as well. Why? Because people with negative attitudes seek to drag you down to their level. They believe that there is no reason you need to be positive because they are sure there is no reason they should be positive. Their problem is that they are so stuck in the negative-rut that they cannot see the bright and beautiful positive light just in front of them.
This is why when we talk about the 4-step plan to success I emphasize the 3rd step: Your mind tightly closed to all negative influence. Those negative influences can come from places you least expect; friends, family and acquaintances. Many others have a three-step plan and do not include this step, but I feel that it is as important if not THE most important of the steps. It is definitely a step that can trip you up most easily, as we have become accustomed to listening to the opinions of others, especially where friends and family are concerned.
So as the Digger and the Writer found out. Take a stand, tell it like it is. Be confident in you and the things you do and never let anyone enter and take control of YOUR mind. It is yours and you are the only person who will or will not allow entry. Choose the information you assimilate and absorb wisely and above all else be YOU!
And because this post was made on such a sad day I will include a Special Estelle Getty Tribute (Sophia on the Golden Girls)
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Three Times the Charm - Arte y Pico Awards
July 2, 2008
Three Times the Charm
Three Times the Charm
It was definitely the great week for Ya-ttitude. I guess this is the give positive - get positive - give positive-award. Ya-ttitude.com did not get one or two but three of the amazing awards this week. And what makes them so special is that they are give to you by your peers. You have to be hand-selected by another amazing blogger and I feel so honored and lucky to have been selected to receive three of these awards this week.To my surprise Amy from Amyoops.com was the first to honor me and then I received another shortly after from Heather of Azure Islands Design and to round out the amazing week an incredible blogger Rob over at Rob’s Megaphone just bestowed one on me as well. Wow - What a week and what an honor!
The “Arte y Pico” award was created and to be given to bloggers who inspire others with their creative energy and their talents, whether it be writing, artwork in all media’s. When you receive this award it is considered a “special honor”. Once you have received this ward, you are to pass it on to at least 5 others.
1) The winner of the award must choose 5 bloggers that they consider deserving of this award for the creativity, design, posts and contribution to the blogging community, no matter the language.
2) Each award given has to have the name of the author and a link to his or her blog to be visited by everyone.
3) Each award winner has to show the award and put the name and link to the blog that has given her or him the award itself.
4) Award winner and the giver of this award must show the link of the Arte y Pico blog, so everyone will know the origin of this award.
5) Post these rules.
The following are the perfect artist to receive this award as they are artists “who inspire others with their creative energy and their talents.” As the rules state it is my turn to go positive and bestow this award to 5 fantastic people with fantastic blogs.
This is not easy to do as I read so many blogs every week. I thought that maybe I would try to go with different categories for the awards.
1. From the world of business blogging: Erik Johnels from The Weakest Link Consulting is working hard at showing all of us how to conduct ourselves in the business world and has most recently spent much of his time teaching us just how to make money from our blogs.
2. Joe, Joe, Joe what can I say about the Crotchety Old Man - Oh Ya! Richard Simmons he is not - but funny - He Is! This is my World of Comedy Winner.
3. Christine from Live Passionately is my Self-Help winner. Her blog is always inspiring and a must read on my schedule - should be on yours too!
4. Kevin at Next Gen Dads gets my Personal Blog Award. This is great stuff for the family man and even woman. Down home heart felt writing!
And finally -
5. My Naked Blog Award goes to Robin of Naked In Eden. Because her blog is incredible, her writing fantastic and - well - she does everything naked! Thanks again to everyone for the accolades and I really do encourage you to visit these sites I have listed and enjoy their different outlooks on life!
Addendum: 7/9/08:
It looks like Ya-ttitude Just received another one - Is that a 4-PEAT? Or was it a Quattro? I really do not know but I know I am so honored by all the love. First I have to thank that adorable artist Sue from Soul-to-Soul. Her blog is not only amazing it is quite unique, I think you should all go there and have a look around - well worth the trip and I will reimburse your gas money. The one thing that is great about getting another one of these is that I am going to take advantage and give some shouts to some other great blogs you should be reading every day!
1. Principles for Peace is just an amazing site. Go there and learn how to make the most of yourself!
2. Holly Traveling - those of you who have been here a while know that I love her blog - so now you need to go there and love it too!
3. Wheres My Damn Answer - 5 women drunk on wine - c’mon who doesn’t love that! I am not going to take advantage of my nominations - so I will only add these three for now.
Go there and read and enjoy - I know that I do!
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Fear; The Final Frontier
May 21, 2008
Fear; The Final Frontier!
Fear is definitely not the place that “no man has gone before’” but let me take you on this trek. We will seek out the reasons behind those “ten hot-button fears” and see how a deeper exploration and understanding will show you just how easy it is to colonize them; one-by-one!
Let’s start with a simple List of the Ten Fears…
- Fear From Poverty
- Fear of Criticism
- Fear from Embarrassment
- Fear of Illness
- Fear of Disease
- Fear of the Loss of Love
- Fear of the loss of a Loved One
- Fear of Getting Old/Old Age
- Fear of The Loss of Liberty/Freedom
- Fear of/from Death
Remember: You cannot simply announce to yourself that you are going to have faith and “poof” you have faith; if it were only that easy. And, no they haven’t invented a pill for it either.
The best way to develop faith is to find you some quiet place and some quiet time; I really like to do this in bed as I lay down with my eyes closed, fully relaxed and focused. I use what I have learned. The same things you have learned over the previous 4 or 5 posts.
Yes; there is a method to my madness. A Ya-ttitudeTM to the plan.
With my quiet time and place secured I begin my focused-faith. My mind becomes cleared of all the negative thoughts that may have slipped in through the day. I really like doing this starting with a big smile on my face; it is impossible to think negative thoughts with a smile on your face. That is a great way for you to build a negative-thought-blockade - a simple smile…
Give yourself about half an hour and these two simple steps.
In your mind and your minds-eye express your desire for accomplishment of a purpose and create that definite plan for its achievement; see it as you are living it in your mind-written script.
Start acting on your desires backed with desire and enthusiasm building your excitement as a path to your goals.
Now work these out in your mind. See them coming to fruition. Watch as it happens. You are living them out in your mind. All of those accomplishments you want to achieve are being achieved. Success is already a major part of your life. Your greatest goals are all happening right before your very minds-eye. Your dreams and plans your hopes and wishes they are all becoming reality. The ARE reality. Yes! Watch them unfold and enjoy them as they were already a done-deal! Really work it!
Better than a Hollywood Movie
It is a Ya-ttitudeTM-Movie.
This exercise should be done at least three times a week. I actually work this mind magic at least 5 nights a week; as there will be other mind-games to add to our arsenal soon.
Next Time:
Fear; I Ain’t Afraid of No Poverty
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Sleep Deprivation Cured: Sleep Concentration
May 13, 2008
My Last few posts were fairly long, so today I figured I would give something a little shorter to read, but just as important to your success, your life and your Ya-ttitude.
Most of you who have read along over the last few weeks and months or have followed my comments here and elsewhere realize that I preach the division of your day into three equal parts. You need 8-hours for work and 8-hours to enjoy yourself. Enjoying yourself can consist of man things, the betterment of your life, time with the kids, reading writing etc. Today I want to look at those last 8 hours of your day, the hours you should be asleep.
With our hectic schedules and all the pulls and pushes of life I often hear comments like this, “Sleep is over rated” or “I’ll sleep when I am dead, I am too busy now.” Well these comments and the lack of a quality night of sleep are as big a roadblock to your success as not developing a plan or an underdeveloped desire to achieve.
To Sleep; A Chance to Dream…
I am going to show you a simple yet effective and time-tested method to get you mind and body to relax and prepared for a wonderful night of sleep. In turn your subconscious mind will have a chance to drive home a clear path for your success full Ya-ttitude.
The Water Method
Place a full glass of water on a table in your bedroom, (I actually have an aquarium in my room for just such occasions - fish and all) and sit in a chair beside the table. Gaze quietly into the glass; see how calm the water is. Then in your minds-eye see yourself becoming calm, feel your muscles relax and your mind slowing down. Allow this script to write itself in your mind. Write your days end, the time to sleep and regenerate in your personal script. Play it out, feel it happening; you are getting tired and you do so want to sleep now. You can feel your pillow and that soft blanket, the soft edges of your consciousness fading away, as the softness of sleep quickly approaches. You know that ultimate relaxation is here now and play it over in your mind over and over again, feel it and live it as it is actually happening and has happened.
Keep this thought and idea in your mind; “There is nothing to it; there is no problem to fall asleep.”
You are just now starting to understand how important and in how many ways concentration will have an effect on your life, your success and on your Ya-ttitude.
Sleep well…
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Concentration 102: A Ya-ttitude of Desire
May 12, 2008
Concentration 102: Desire
Desire is an important topic where it is related to your success. You will have noticed that I have touched on the subject many times during the writings, starting right from the first post: The 4-Step Plan to Success until this one here; and be sure we will be talking about it many more times. Desire, Your desire is one of the 4 secrets to your success. You really need an emotional desire backing everything you do in order to be successful. This is neither the time nor the place to go at tings half-hearted. Your success will be and is driven by your desire. It does not matter how and what you define your ultimate success; just know that desire is a leading factor in its achievement. Desire is what will bring “it” home for you! Yes, you are correct, there are other major attributes to your success; Desire is one, but of course your written plan, your Master Mind group and your mind shut off of all negative influence are your big four. Persistence in all four of these will get you where you want to be; but your desire to do it, be it and live it will make it happen.
Desire which is one of the hardest emotions to control, as it can bring as much negative into your life as positive if not controlled correctly, is a perfect place to discuss a new exercise for you to work on and perfect on your road to Ya-ttitude.
Concentration on Desire; a Ya-ttitude Adjustment
It is very natural to want to show and tell others all about what you know and what it is you are working on in your everyday life. By working on controlling these urges you will find a fantastic way to concentrate and strengthen your desires into a useful tool for your future.
Remember: You have a full plate of business to take care of in your life, so wasting time on idle gossip or being braggadocio is just not the focus you are looking for if you want to be the best you can be at all times.
The news you gather about others will serve you best locked behind closed doors of the mind. In both your short term and your long term you will be best served with keeping this info to yourself (of course circumstances will change this - but only in rare instances.) If you hear good news, fight the urge there as well - control yourself in both instances. This will really work your ability to control your desires and once you have the ability to control your desires you will attain the ability to focus it to greater use as well; your greater good and greater success.
If you get excited from good news try this. Fight the urge to tell the first person you meet all about the information. I know that this will require all of your will power to fight that desire, but work it, work it and make it happen; especially if this is a habit of yours. Work hard on your will power - I know you can do it and you know you can do it - we both can’t be wrong! Now once you feel you have it under control and the urge has passed and you have gone a while without spreading the news, go ahead and feel free to tell someone. But be sure you have overcome that desire; you have fought those urges and were able to tuck them away and move on! Be sure you have your emotions under control and in check and then go ahead and talk about it. Of course this works the same way with new that is not pleasant. Fight that urge, stow the information away behind those doors of the mind and when you are sure you have complete control then and only then you can share the news.
Say to yourself: “Nothing is going to cause me to lose control; I will tell no one - I am strong of will and desire and I can do this” Make it personal - Add your name in there - Talk to yourself as if you were doing this to someone else. Drive the control home! YOU Can do it! We know you can - don’t we!
You will find these experiences will benefit you in all phases of life. You will be looked upon as the cool-headed under-control leader, or that level-headed person we all need to go to when we need guidance. You will become that go-to guy in your life and in your Master Mind group. You will have taken another step towards your success and your Ya-ttitude.
Of course you must always look at the specific circumstance when you work this control, obviously there are times you need to react quick and move forward with the information; these exercises will make that quite clear to you.
You were given two ears and one mouth for a reason - work that reason to your advantage.
Remember: “He who rules his spirit is greater than he who rules a city.” -
And that is because you cannot rule the outside until the inside is under control.
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Concentration 101.2 and more: Time to Focus
May 7, 2008
Concentration 101.2 (thru .6) Time to Focus
A key element to the entire study of Ya-ttitude is Focus. While running on the treadmill, aren’t we supposed to find a spot to focus on and go-go-go? I remember when I played ball in my recent past. Our batting coach always reminded us about finding a spot on the pitcher and focus on that – watch the ball come out of that focus-spot and get to hacking. In life, knowledge is great, but focused knowledge is power, Desire is essential focused-desire is unbeatable and energy is always needed but focused energy bring home your success!
Today’s exercises are clearly focused on developing your focus!
101.2
Find a straight-back chair to sit in and have you a seat. Sit back in the chair, chin up and shoulders straight with your back resting against the chair. Then point your right arm out and make sure it is level with your shoulder. Turn only your head and look directly at your fingers. Palms should be downward-facing at this point and your eyes locked on the tips of your fingers. Now, work on keeping your arm perfectly still. Focus on your fingers and watch them intently. Your fingers will let you know if you are slipping in your attention and your control. Try this for one minute with the right arm and then one minute with the left arm at first, but eventually I want you to be able to do this for five minutes with no loss in control. Pay tight attention to your fingers and do not let your mind waiver, as once it does, so will those fingers.
101.3
Fill a small glass with water, and again sit in a similar fashion as in exercise 101.2. Hold the glass in your right hand, with your fingers, not centered in your palm. This time point your arm out directly in front of you. Hold steady now and focus on the waterline in the glass. That line will be your signal if there is a change in your focus and control. Hold that arm perfectly still and straight. Start with your right arm and then repeat this with the left. Being able to do this for one minute at first will be fantastic, but eventually I want you to be able to do this for 5 minutes on each arm. Practice this, hold steady your focus as it will allow you to hold steady your control. You can do it!
101.4
Here is one that you can work on all day long. You can and should do this one in all situations, at home and at work. It is time to watch your body. Well time to focus in on the movements of your body that is. Focus in on the movements of your muscles. The real key here is to see that you are not making unnecessary and unneeded extra motions and movements with your body. Be sure to keep all of your muscles at ease during the day and as you work this exercise. Keep your mind on staying relaxed. Control the tension and remain tension-free. Please pay close attention to anything – events, actions, words and people that may cause you to lose focus and tense up. Be sure to pay very close attention to what or who they are – even jotting down some notes if you can. Work on eliminating all useless gestures: eye rolling and hand waving to name but two. Eliminate the wasted energy by focusing your energy on the elimination of needless actions and movements.
This is an incredible skill and once acquired you will notice two amazing things:
1. How you are able to stay relaxed and at ease in all situations (imagine this skill during a job interview or a salary negotiation with your boss) and
2. How ill-at-ease those who cannot control their bodies are around someone who can. This will allow you an amazing advantage in most situations; imagine how much you can learn from others when you can focus in on them and be relaxed, always.
101.5
Sit comfortably in a chair and then slide it up close to a table. Lay your right hand on the table with your palm facing up. Make a fist, curing all of your fingers and wrapping it up with the thumb folded over neatly.
Time to relax and focus your mind.
Focus on your thumb, and slowly unfurl it. Watch it slowly and painstakingly as it moves up and away from the rest of your fingers. Then slowly do the same with your forefinger, watch closely, focus on the movements, pay close attention. Now slowly do it with the rest of your fingers, following the same guides as previous. Once they are all open, reverse the process. Again, slowly, focus in on just the movements of the fingers – focus your attention. Then switch hands and repeat the process. Continue to do this exercise until you have done it 5 times with each hand. Give it time. But over the next few days work on increasing the amount of times until you can comfortably do ten of these.
I bet this exercise will actually make you feel tired; but please continue to train your attention on your movements and your fingers. You must keep your attention at a highly-focused level or the value of this exercise will be lost.
101.6
Place your hand on your knee and fold all fingers except the forefinger into a fist. Your forefinger will basically be pointing out away from your knee. Move your finger up and down, slowly pay attention to only the movement of the finger, nothing else. Up and down at first, then right and left – focusing attentions on the moving finger. This one is much harder than you think as your mind will be looking for much more exciting things to do and think about; how exciting is watching the motion of your finger? This is quite boring for your mind, so you will really need to focus on the finger and work on keeping your concentration locked on the movements.
Make up a bunch of singular-body-movement exercises; Always being sure to focus in on the singularly moving part of your body. It is great training to come up with your own little singular-movement exercises and work on them – always paying attention and focusing in on the moving part only!
Main Point Here is keeping it simple! All your energy and focus must be locked in on that moving part only. You will notice that your mind really does want to wander away from its focus with this one and try to find something more interesting to think about – fight the urge – focus and pay attention!
I know, I know, I know - It sounds too simple and cheesy and corny; much too easy to be effective. Listen to me on this one, you will be absolutely amazed when you will notice (and in a very short amount of time,) that your mind and body control have become remarkable. You will have gained control over all of your muscles and movements and you will have learned incredible focus. Just imagine all the places you can use this to your advantage and all the places this will help you to achieve that ultimate goal and success. Even in simple everyday occurrences these skills will astound you. Next time you are in a bar or a club and you want to walk over to that guy or girl and start a conversation – this is a skill you will thank me for later. Job interviews with no nervousness and uncontrolled hand and body movements, meetings with you in total control even better focus during sex with your lover – Ya! now your thinking.
The person that can concentrate can gain full control over their body with their mind; you become your master not your slave.
Try them – You will be sending me those emails of gratitude shortly!
Note: Many of the excercises are a modernized, easier to use version of excercises originally introduced in 1935 By Dumont Theron. Obviously a man way ahead of his time.
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Mission Two - The Write Stuff
April 29, 2008
Based on All of the responses I received to the First Mission post it seems clear to me that you are all well on your way to achieving that Ya-ttitude; and with that Positive Ya-ttitude flowing through your creative mind; both conscious and sub conscious; your success has now gotten just a little closer to being attained.
Now, since there were three items that made up the details of the First Mission’s to-do list, why would you think that Mission Two: The Write Stuff would be much different. Yuppers! There are three items on the new Mission for you to get those creative juices flowing and get even closer to being that success you know you want to be.
The first three items that you “added” to your positive Ya-ttitude were very easy to accomplish; and though these will be easy as well – they will require considerably more effort and considerably more consistency on your part. I wonder if that may have been why the previous two posts, A Weekend Cure and Maxim of Effort fell in between Mission One and Mission Two – just another one of those things that make you go hmmm. C’mon, you know that the purpose of all of this is your greater success (defined any way you feel your success should be defined) so any effort put forward to accomplish that is a positive effort and all your results will be positive as well!
Your last Mission was comprised of “reading-based” items. They were designed to and have given you a foundation for your new and exciting positive Ya-ttitude. Here we will start to build upon that foundation. Now that you are in the learning-positive-Ya-ttitude frame-of-mind and your head is chock-full of ideas, thoughts, concepts and goals it is time to get those down so they can do you the most amount of good and really create some positive-personal-power for you!
The Write State of Mind: - A Three-Part Mini Series.
Here are your missions (well the mini missions that comprise of you Mission Number two) and again, there is no turning back, no clicking away and no Procrastination. Time to pay attention and get your Ya-ttitude in gear!
Your Definite Goals:
Boys and Girls, we finally made it here. This is the root of all of your future successes. It is the starting point of where you want to go and will create the groundwork for how you are going to get there. But one of the most important parts of this is making sure you have it all written down. BY HAND! Yes! No computers. Write down your goal, your definite purpose, but make sure you are writing this by hand on a plain piece of paper. You remember how we all learned our multiplication tables, writing them over and over and reading them over and over – well – welcome back to that place, just the Adult version.
Find that “quiet place” and grab your favorite pen or pencil and a nice pad or stack of paper and open your mind so all of that positive energy can start flowing. Allow those deep buried thoughts in your sub conscious mind to float freely to the surface. You are now ready to start putting on paper what has been living and growing deep inside you, your dreams and goals that have been building and growing in your mind. Your definite chief aim/goal is what it is YOU are striving for and for each of us the term “success” is defined so differently. But if you are reading along with the rest of us (and I know you are) I know that it is Success in your life that you are striving for and here is one key to accomplishing it.
Your plan has a few components and as we go along you will learn how to create and develop your specific plan. It really is not difficult at all, you need to be true to yourself and dig deep, real deep to uncover all of the details. It is MORE than fine if this plan of yours shifts, adjusts changes or morphs into an entirely different animal. It is even great if your final plan does not resemble the initial plan in any way, shape or form. The fundamental concept you have to understand is that you need to just decide to go ahead and do it. Deciding is of paramount importance. Again, go back to the previous two exercises if you need more definition and more motivation, but at this point I know you can do it and so do you! So sit back and breathe. Allow the energy inside of you and the ink in that pen you are holding to flow and together you will write down what your goal is!
Click here for a “pop up window” example of someone’s quick-plan. It will give you an idea of what I am looking for in your first written attempt. But remember the most important parts of your plan are…
Make it strong.
Make it Personal.
Make it your own.
Make it important and
Make it happen!
Of course you realize that names, dates and places were all changed to protect the innocent and the ex-procrastinators. This is but an outline of how to get going. Write it like you mean it. Reach higher than you ever dreamt that you could achieve and then get to work.
Note: For this part of the course and Mission I only want you to “write” a plan – get it down and get it ready. We will get to the “action” portion as soon as you are ready and you will know when you are, but be sure I will hint and help you all the way through.
Blog it or Lose it!
It’s a new world with new rules lots of new ways and your brand new Ya-ttitude at the ready. The best way to be sure you reach that success-goal is to make sure you are always working and growing that skill set. So welcome to the great new world of blogging. Yes my friends you are now going to become a blogger; a writing and blogging achiever of Ya-ttitude. I want you to start a blog, and those of you who are already writing on one or at the very least already own one, please follow along. If you do not have a blog and need some information on starting one it is one of the easiest things you can possibly do. Go to www.wordpress.com and sign up and get yourself a blog. There are many other places to use, but since WP is where I started I felt a bit of loyalty. One thing I do recommend is if you really start to love the whole blogging process and feel those juices flow immediately, it would be wise to look into a personal site to move your blog to it as soon as you can, it is a lot of work to get it all moved after you really have written tons of posts have all those links bringing you traffic. You really are going to need your own web site as we continue through the pages here and the sooner you do it the easier the transition will be. I have been working with New Ward Development -Melissa has been Great. She can get things ported over quickly and easily and made my transition simple.
Your Blog can be on anything. Pick a subject or a topic and write and write and write. Your success will come from repetition so please be sure to post up at least once every week. Many people love blogging and you just never know – perhaps this becomes that goal of yours. In either way, your blog will allow you to move your success closer and in time will be a place for you to share your results and even your Ya-ttitude with the rest of the world. When you send me your Blog’s URL I will be more than happy to create a page with all of your blogs and get the word out about how you are on your way to Ya-ttitude.
You will realize that this is a great way for you to develop much of the creativeness inside of you. I know that all of us are not poets or play writes, but this is a personal blog, so make it personal. This is your business blog, so make it about your business. This is a funny blog – so go for the jokes. Maybe this is a photo-blog and you want to share with us the great shots you have in your collection. And if you cannot think of an idea – please send me a note – I will give you some direction. I cannot stress enough how important this step is in your achievement of your goals, there IS a reason why there are millions of blogs out there. But just as in our day-to-day lives 95% of those blogs started get no love, because there is no follow through. Do it!
Journalize and Close your Eyes!
Part three and the final part is the easiest part of your Mission number two. A nightly journal is the last part. All I want you to do and all YOU want to do is write down a few sentences every night before bed, about what you did today to get closer to your goal. What you did today to make someone smile. What you did today to make a difference. Just write a few sentences about your day. Stay away from any negatives. Write about positive occurrences in the day. It really does not matter what they are, just that you list the top two or three every night before bed.
See, I told you it would be easy. What a great way to shut your eyes and sleep – filled with positive energy and your newly developing Ya-ttitude.
Now get to writing!
As always I am available for help with any and all of the work you are doing, so please feel free to email me anytime you need help or have a question.
Benny
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Maxim of Effort
April 23, 2008
Maxim of effort!
Here is a little exercise that is a perfect follow-up to the previous one - our good ole cure for abulia! This one is designed to reinforce your will power and designed to help you put out the maximum effort at all times. With the ability to keep the effort-level at its peak at all times, there is nothing you cannot achieve! The more you can exercise the will to do and follow-through to completions the better you can control the habit and the better you can control the habit - the better you will be.
So here is my little exercise for you to do everyday: (Another step to your Ya-TTITUDE!)
Every few days (a 30 day trial - takes about 30 days to get a habit formed) do something for no other reason that the simple fact that it is difficult to do. The more practice you have at doing and accomplishing the difficult tasks, when they are not necessary, the better you will be when the time comes for you to have to perform these feats of controlled will and effort. After practicing this for a while, you will no longer become unnerved at the daunting task - as it will not seem daunting at all. You will no longer procrastinate, because you will be trained to do it, not avoid it!
It does not matter what you select as the difficult task, run a mile or two, or make a gourmet meal from scratch, quit smoking, or stop drinking, go to the gym or paint a room - not important, only thing that is important is that IT IS A DIFFICULT task for you and you do it to completion.
Thoughts everyone?
I really do want to hear your comments or email me your thoughts and results as well as ideas!
Ben
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A weekend Cure
April 19, 2008
I think that it is time for a little practical application to our cure for abulia. I received many emails and some interesting thoughts and ideas, but here is my challenge to you. It is a one-to-two week challenge but the results will amaze you. For the next fourteen days (seven days for you non-believers - but you will be a believer) I want you to get out of your norm and try to break your habit of abulia - inability to decide. I want you to make quick decisions. I want you to pay close attention to what you are doing - concentrate - use your will power and work on it every minute of the day. You do not have to go crazy here, but I want you to make your decisions quicker for the next two weeks.
At first this may be a bit tough, but concentrate - keep your mind focused, and use your will power to accomplish this goal. When you feel that you may be losing a bit of concentration - just start to count from 100 backwards - and you will regain your concentration quickly. You are forced to concentrate when you do things out of the norm and counting backwards is out of the norm.
I also want you to make sure you get up at exactly the same time everyday for the next two weeks as well (humor me). Anything you wish to accomplish and everything you will accomplish always make sure you do it ahead of your initially scheduled time.
I live in the real world too, so any decisions that are of greater importance and decisions that may need some research should still get due process, but again, do it quicker!
As you learn to make quick decisions on little things, you will start to understand how to make quick decisions on bigger things. This is a tremendous skill to acquire and one that is a founding-block to your success.
Never procrastinate and please make that decision one way or another - do not worry about making a mistake - just make the decision and go with it!
Note: I would love to hear from you on how this is going and your results after one and two weeks. You can email me - or keep us all informed by commenting here!
Ben
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Ya-ttitude: Curing Abulia? -you decide!
April 17, 2008
Word of the Day
Sunday, April 13, 2008
Abulia\uh-BOO-lee-uh; uh-BYOO-\, noun:
Loss or impairment of the ability to act or to make decisions.
Abulia derives from Greek a-, “without” + boule, “will.”
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I have mentioned before that sometimes when I get a bit of writers block reading others writings or others books, blogs or posts are great ways of getting creative inspiration. I am guessing that Dictionary.com is a bit backed up on their email-sends, but this arrived in my email box this morning; and the little light bulb above my head started flashing brightly!
Abulia – it doesn’t even sound like a positive word. Sounds like the technical term a Doctor would use to describe the disease you are suffering from that there is no explanation for… Wait! It is a disease – a disease that 98% of people trying to be successful suffer from – Abulia.
Did your last visit to your own conscious mind end like this? “I am sorry ma’am but you are suffering from Abulia.” There is a cure but you are going to have to make a decision, can you do that? Wait; if you suffer from abulia can you make a decision? Is making a decision the cure to abulia? Bingo! Finding the cure to the most fatal disease to your future success is easy! Decide to find the cure and you’re cured!
Make A decision, any decision and get on with your positive life. Don’t just sit there and fear the results. You have faith in yourself and in your actions and abilities and one of the beautiful things about faith is that fear cannot stand it! So as you continue to allow your faith to grow your fear will diminish until the point your faith removes all fear.
Of course there will be times that you decide and it was wrong – so what! Pick yourself up and get back to it! Errors are part of the game – there is no perfect plan and often you will be on Plan D before you make it all come together and Plan R when you are all said and done – but – keep it going and make it happen for you!
We have spoken about it before and we will speak about it again, decision is the key to your long-term goal-achievement!
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Step One: Decide what it is you want to define as your goal, your plan and your definite purpose. Create a personal “buyer-persona.”
-Most successful companies create personas of the buyers they want to sell to – create a personal one to sell you!
Step Two: Write that plan down, detail it, and give it a timeline and work at it everyday!
- Write it – don’t type it out on your keyboard, or dictate it to someone else. You need to write it down and memorize it. You need to read it everyday and remind yourself of just what you’re after!
Step Three: Back that plan up with all the desire and emotion you can muster and then muster some more. The more you live your dream the more you will LIVE your dream! Shut out all the negative influences.
– treat yourself as you would a customer that you need to acquire! What would you do to make that sale, add that new volunteer, increase your web traffic, become the next Mayor of your City or lead your church choir? Back it up with all the force you can muster from within!
Step Four: Select a team of people who can and will help you attain this goal, this dream and your ultimate success. Find positive people who will help you every step of the way, but be sure to help them as much as they help you.
– All of the great business people in history have had a group of people they held near and dear. People they could fall back on when they needed to and when they did not. This is a two-way street though – they need you like you need them – or it does not work!
For those of you who have not read Emerson’s Essay on Compensation – it is time to dive in. The amazing thing about this essay is that no matter how many times you read it – you learn something new and not only will the little light bulb above your head start to blink – it will be like an 80’s Disco Strobe going off!
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