The Fear of The Loss of Love - The Love Connection
June 27, 2008
The Fear of Loss of Love - The Love Connection
Your Personal Love Potion!
This is the fear that has really given me the most trouble to write about. I have had “the block” for two weeks when I think of writing about this one. I have started and torn out various pages from my notebook. It is not because I do not understand where the fear was born. It is definitely not because I lack any understanding in regards to why people do have this fear or why they come to have this fear either. My issues with this fear seem to be so much more personal where this often debilitating fear - The Fear of the Loss of Love is concerned.
You see this seems to be a fear that I just cannot get my brain around. It may be because I have never actually felt it; Love lost during High School or that long-awaited date-gone-bad are really not prime examples of this fear at all. This is a fear that often sends people “over the deep end” and into “fits of rage.” This fear often leads to jealousy and contempt. It has turned the most respectable person into a liar, thief and cheater. It has ruined fantastic careers, great loves and the future of many good people. But that just may be where I have an issue.
Rewind:
I have used the line “Sometimes the good of the ONE outweighs the good of the many” a few times during my writings. This is a line I have used even more so when I do one-on-one coaching or business consulting; and that just may be my Personal Love Potion.
I love myself - I really do! I am not conceited or arrogant or even braggadocios; but I genuinely love myself. This is really the KEY, the SECRET and the basis for not being effected by this disease, or fear. Now - Say it with Me! “I Love Myself.” Now say it with a big ole smile on your face; “I Love Myself!!” When you start loving yourself you will be much better prepared to love others, to feel secure and confident in their love and be secure and confident enough in yourself to realize that you can now control this fear as there will always be love in your life. It may change and may hurt sometimes, but your life will always be filled with love.
Of course this disease/fear lends itself to many different incarnations and this is exactly where your faith when added to your confidence and self esteem become your Personal Love Potion! Your personal-confidence is important in all aspects of life and aspects of business but even more so when it effect the “affairs of the heart.” The Fear of the Loss of Love is defeated each time you use your Personal Love Potion.
Add faith to self esteem: Personal Love Potion. Mix Will Power with your Personal-Confidence: Personal Love Potion. Now try a cocktail of Will power, Confidence and Faith with a twist of Self Esteem and a dash of Concentration: Personal Love Potion Number 9! You are protected and protecting yourself by all that which you have learned and by the application of the set of general practices we have worked on to this point. You are starting to realize that each and every lesson we work on is just another ingredient in that recipe to your success. The ingredients can be modified to make your ultimate recipe - your personal recipe even, but these ingredients are your basic building blocks to your greater Ya-ttitudeTM and your greater Future!
This is not a fear I wish to spend much time on as it is one that affect the heart and the head, but is easily understood and easily controlled by the use of your Personal Love Potion(s). I do wish to shed a little light on three of the most common Symptoms of the Fear of the Loss of Love, but a quick-and-easy guide is all that is needed as I believe we do all understand the basic premise with this fear.
The finding of fault in friends, relatives, loved ones, business acquaintances and workers upon the slightest of provocation or error, without any cause whatsoever (a mouthful) is a clear-cut signal that you are falling prey. Go back to the exercise on concentration - use it to focus and relax, you can control yourself when you control your thoughts and your mind. Do not let it ever go as it is yours to control no one else’s.
One that you may not have thought about is gambling (we did touch on the lying and stealing and cheating - as more obvious ones). Gambling and taking unnecessary risks are another signal that the fear may be upon you. You need to more because you believe you need to impress your “love” with material things whereas you can impress so much better with the items of the heart and soul. Do not spend beyond your means or incur debts that you will never be able to repay. Those debts of the heart are equally as expensive. Pay close attention if any of the following occur: Insomnia, lack of persistence, weakening of your will, lowering of your self esteem, loss of self control a lack of self reliance or snapping and general loss of temper. Go back to the concentration section and work on those exercises! And finally Jealousy.
This habit of being suspicious of friends and loved ones with no reasonable evidence or sufficient grounds - That is jealousy! You do realize that often Jealousy is just a form of dementia - you don’t want to be demented - drink of the Love Potions - Mix them well - use them often and be all that you can be - and more!
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Fear; The Final Frontier
May 21, 2008
Fear; The Final Frontier!
Fear is definitely not the place that “no man has gone before’” but let me take you on this trek. We will seek out the reasons behind those “ten hot-button fears” and see how a deeper exploration and understanding will show you just how easy it is to colonize them; one-by-one!
Let’s start with a simple List of the Ten Fears…
- Fear From Poverty
- Fear of Criticism
- Fear from Embarrassment
- Fear of Illness
- Fear of Disease
- Fear of the Loss of Love
- Fear of the loss of a Loved One
- Fear of Getting Old/Old Age
- Fear of The Loss of Liberty/Freedom
- Fear of/from Death
Remember: You cannot simply announce to yourself that you are going to have faith and “poof” you have faith; if it were only that easy. And, no they haven’t invented a pill for it either.
The best way to develop faith is to find you some quiet place and some quiet time; I really like to do this in bed as I lay down with my eyes closed, fully relaxed and focused. I use what I have learned. The same things you have learned over the previous 4 or 5 posts.
Yes; there is a method to my madness. A Ya-ttitudeTM to the plan.
With my quiet time and place secured I begin my focused-faith. My mind becomes cleared of all the negative thoughts that may have slipped in through the day. I really like doing this starting with a big smile on my face; it is impossible to think negative thoughts with a smile on your face. That is a great way for you to build a negative-thought-blockade - a simple smile…
Give yourself about half an hour and these two simple steps.
In your mind and your minds-eye express your desire for accomplishment of a purpose and create that definite plan for its achievement; see it as you are living it in your mind-written script.
Start acting on your desires backed with desire and enthusiasm building your excitement as a path to your goals.
Now work these out in your mind. See them coming to fruition. Watch as it happens. You are living them out in your mind. All of those accomplishments you want to achieve are being achieved. Success is already a major part of your life. Your greatest goals are all happening right before your very minds-eye. Your dreams and plans your hopes and wishes they are all becoming reality. The ARE reality. Yes! Watch them unfold and enjoy them as they were already a done-deal! Really work it!
Better than a Hollywood Movie
It is a Ya-ttitudeTM-Movie.
This exercise should be done at least three times a week. I actually work this mind magic at least 5 nights a week; as there will be other mind-games to add to our arsenal soon.
Next Time:
Fear; I Ain’t Afraid of No Poverty
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Sleep Deprivation Cured: Sleep Concentration
May 13, 2008
My Last few posts were fairly long, so today I figured I would give something a little shorter to read, but just as important to your success, your life and your Ya-ttitude.
Most of you who have read along over the last few weeks and months or have followed my comments here and elsewhere realize that I preach the division of your day into three equal parts. You need 8-hours for work and 8-hours to enjoy yourself. Enjoying yourself can consist of man things, the betterment of your life, time with the kids, reading writing etc. Today I want to look at those last 8 hours of your day, the hours you should be asleep.
With our hectic schedules and all the pulls and pushes of life I often hear comments like this, “Sleep is over rated” or “I’ll sleep when I am dead, I am too busy now.” Well these comments and the lack of a quality night of sleep are as big a roadblock to your success as not developing a plan or an underdeveloped desire to achieve.
To Sleep; A Chance to Dream…
I am going to show you a simple yet effective and time-tested method to get you mind and body to relax and prepared for a wonderful night of sleep. In turn your subconscious mind will have a chance to drive home a clear path for your success full Ya-ttitude.
The Water Method
Place a full glass of water on a table in your bedroom, (I actually have an aquarium in my room for just such occasions - fish and all) and sit in a chair beside the table. Gaze quietly into the glass; see how calm the water is. Then in your minds-eye see yourself becoming calm, feel your muscles relax and your mind slowing down. Allow this script to write itself in your mind. Write your days end, the time to sleep and regenerate in your personal script. Play it out, feel it happening; you are getting tired and you do so want to sleep now. You can feel your pillow and that soft blanket, the soft edges of your consciousness fading away, as the softness of sleep quickly approaches. You know that ultimate relaxation is here now and play it over in your mind over and over again, feel it and live it as it is actually happening and has happened.
Keep this thought and idea in your mind; “There is nothing to it; there is no problem to fall asleep.”
You are just now starting to understand how important and in how many ways concentration will have an effect on your life, your success and on your Ya-ttitude.
Sleep well…
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Maxim of Effort
April 23, 2008
Maxim of effort!
Here is a little exercise that is a perfect follow-up to the previous one - our good ole cure for abulia! This one is designed to reinforce your will power and designed to help you put out the maximum effort at all times. With the ability to keep the effort-level at its peak at all times, there is nothing you cannot achieve! The more you can exercise the will to do and follow-through to completions the better you can control the habit and the better you can control the habit - the better you will be.
So here is my little exercise for you to do everyday: (Another step to your Ya-TTITUDE!)
Every few days (a 30 day trial - takes about 30 days to get a habit formed) do something for no other reason that the simple fact that it is difficult to do. The more practice you have at doing and accomplishing the difficult tasks, when they are not necessary, the better you will be when the time comes for you to have to perform these feats of controlled will and effort. After practicing this for a while, you will no longer become unnerved at the daunting task - as it will not seem daunting at all. You will no longer procrastinate, because you will be trained to do it, not avoid it!
It does not matter what you select as the difficult task, run a mile or two, or make a gourmet meal from scratch, quit smoking, or stop drinking, go to the gym or paint a room - not important, only thing that is important is that IT IS A DIFFICULT task for you and you do it to completion.
Thoughts everyone?
I really do want to hear your comments or email me your thoughts and results as well as ideas!
Ben
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A weekend Cure
April 19, 2008
I think that it is time for a little practical application to our cure for abulia. I received many emails and some interesting thoughts and ideas, but here is my challenge to you. It is a one-to-two week challenge but the results will amaze you. For the next fourteen days (seven days for you non-believers - but you will be a believer) I want you to get out of your norm and try to break your habit of abulia - inability to decide. I want you to make quick decisions. I want you to pay close attention to what you are doing - concentrate - use your will power and work on it every minute of the day. You do not have to go crazy here, but I want you to make your decisions quicker for the next two weeks.
At first this may be a bit tough, but concentrate - keep your mind focused, and use your will power to accomplish this goal. When you feel that you may be losing a bit of concentration - just start to count from 100 backwards - and you will regain your concentration quickly. You are forced to concentrate when you do things out of the norm and counting backwards is out of the norm.
I also want you to make sure you get up at exactly the same time everyday for the next two weeks as well (humor me). Anything you wish to accomplish and everything you will accomplish always make sure you do it ahead of your initially scheduled time.
I live in the real world too, so any decisions that are of greater importance and decisions that may need some research should still get due process, but again, do it quicker!
As you learn to make quick decisions on little things, you will start to understand how to make quick decisions on bigger things. This is a tremendous skill to acquire and one that is a founding-block to your success.
Never procrastinate and please make that decision one way or another - do not worry about making a mistake - just make the decision and go with it!
Note: I would love to hear from you on how this is going and your results after one and two weeks. You can email me - or keep us all informed by commenting here!
Ben
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Ya-ttitude: Curing Abulia? -you decide!
April 17, 2008
Word of the Day
Sunday, April 13, 2008
Abulia\uh-BOO-lee-uh; uh-BYOO-\, noun:
Loss or impairment of the ability to act or to make decisions.
Abulia derives from Greek a-, “without” + boule, “will.”
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I have mentioned before that sometimes when I get a bit of writers block reading others writings or others books, blogs or posts are great ways of getting creative inspiration. I am guessing that Dictionary.com is a bit backed up on their email-sends, but this arrived in my email box this morning; and the little light bulb above my head started flashing brightly!
Abulia – it doesn’t even sound like a positive word. Sounds like the technical term a Doctor would use to describe the disease you are suffering from that there is no explanation for… Wait! It is a disease – a disease that 98% of people trying to be successful suffer from – Abulia.
Did your last visit to your own conscious mind end like this? “I am sorry ma’am but you are suffering from Abulia.” There is a cure but you are going to have to make a decision, can you do that? Wait; if you suffer from abulia can you make a decision? Is making a decision the cure to abulia? Bingo! Finding the cure to the most fatal disease to your future success is easy! Decide to find the cure and you’re cured!
Make A decision, any decision and get on with your positive life. Don’t just sit there and fear the results. You have faith in yourself and in your actions and abilities and one of the beautiful things about faith is that fear cannot stand it! So as you continue to allow your faith to grow your fear will diminish until the point your faith removes all fear.
Of course there will be times that you decide and it was wrong – so what! Pick yourself up and get back to it! Errors are part of the game – there is no perfect plan and often you will be on Plan D before you make it all come together and Plan R when you are all said and done – but – keep it going and make it happen for you!
We have spoken about it before and we will speak about it again, decision is the key to your long-term goal-achievement!
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Step One: Decide what it is you want to define as your goal, your plan and your definite purpose. Create a personal “buyer-persona.”
-Most successful companies create personas of the buyers they want to sell to – create a personal one to sell you!
Step Two: Write that plan down, detail it, and give it a timeline and work at it everyday!
- Write it – don’t type it out on your keyboard, or dictate it to someone else. You need to write it down and memorize it. You need to read it everyday and remind yourself of just what you’re after!
Step Three: Back that plan up with all the desire and emotion you can muster and then muster some more. The more you live your dream the more you will LIVE your dream! Shut out all the negative influences.
– treat yourself as you would a customer that you need to acquire! What would you do to make that sale, add that new volunteer, increase your web traffic, become the next Mayor of your City or lead your church choir? Back it up with all the force you can muster from within!
Step Four: Select a team of people who can and will help you attain this goal, this dream and your ultimate success. Find positive people who will help you every step of the way, but be sure to help them as much as they help you.
– All of the great business people in history have had a group of people they held near and dear. People they could fall back on when they needed to and when they did not. This is a two-way street though – they need you like you need them – or it does not work!
For those of you who have not read Emerson’s Essay on Compensation – it is time to dive in. The amazing thing about this essay is that no matter how many times you read it – you learn something new and not only will the little light bulb above your head start to blink – it will be like an 80’s Disco Strobe going off!
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Ya-ttitude: Lists Gone Amok!
April 15, 2008
I spend a great deal of my free time reading. I love books, but blogs have really become an obsession. I have all kinds of Google alerts that now tell me when key words are hit and send me all kinds of blogs to read. I have a well-defined long list of blogs I read almost everyday and at any given time you can find me giving my two cents around the blogosphere. (If you write your own blogs – please send me their locations – I’d love to read them too)
Recently – in emails, Google alerts, others blogs and all over the internet I have run into a very disturbing new trend the To-Don’t list (I do not know how new it is – but I have really started to see this in droves now – so maybe that is why I am realizing it?) Now here is the ultimate in stupid ideas, wastes of time, procrastination, negativity and ass-backward thinking. I wonder – was I clear on my opinions on the to-don’t list yet, because I do have harsher words for its uselessness but will refrain – I am a PG-13 blog.
Who comes up with these things? Do the leaders of Procrasti-NATION stay up all night with nothing better to do but think up sneaky plans to lure our hardworking people astray? Do the leaders of Procrasti-NATION have an army of mindless bots that they send out at night and infiltrate the internet with another series of useless weapons they can fire upon us? C’mon now? To-Don’t Lists? I know none of you are falling for this assault on your common sense and quick-thinking ability to weed out the crap in all situations… right?
The very use of the word don’t should have had you thinking there was an issue with this concept, but then again – these drones from Procrasti-NATION are not stupid in their sneaky ways, imagine when they come around and use their creativity for a positive use! They want to lead you away from the positive and the productive side of your lives, the side of your life where you work hard and play hard and enjoy all parts of your days, and draw you to the other side, the negative world. No reason to go there – just the mere mention of that gets the members of Procrasti-NATION all warm and fuzzy inside. We work on the positive side; the side that allows you to create and consume all that is positive – to share the wealth of your positive nature and to absorb the positive that others will bestow upon you.
So I say to you – who may have been fooled (though only temporarily, of course) tear up those to-don’t lists – because the only Item that should ever be on one is the TO-DON’T LIST itself!
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Ya-ttitude: Things that make you go Hmmm
April 10, 2008
Hey I just received this email from my daughter.
I agree - too much time on her hands - but it must be great to be just shy of your 18th Birthday and on Spring Break…
Does this mean I should move to Arizona and start that Golden Rule Corporation?
Greenberg:
The name of the family from the descendents of King David in the ancient times of Israel. Ancient Israelian prophets predicted that descendents from the Greenberg family would give birth to the Messiah in the freedomland desert. People today believe that the freedomland desert is in the United States possibly the southwest. The Greenberg Family is the Holy Family and the holders of the Davidic Covenant.
An example of Greenberg is a member of the Davidic Covenant, and a Descendent from Kind David and Solomon from ancient Israel.*
http://greenberg.urbanup.com/2896845
This has been a positive interruption from your hard work; brought to you from your friends with Ya-ttitude! All work and no fun makes - well you know what it makes - so - Take the time to have some fun. You need to understand that a great life is made up of a lot more than work. You need to find time to do things you enjoy, you need to find time to rest and to exercise - both mind and body and you need to find time to just have a grand old laugh!
*cut and pasted straight from Urban Dictionary - I know there are typo’s - but have to leave it as is!
(for those of you who are still lost - it is my Last Name)
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Ya-ttitude: Give and Take
April 2, 2008
D0 you have those days when you just read something and it makes you go – Ohhhhhh!
Well today was definitely one of those days. I was reading some of the blogs that are on my “feedburner” and ran across a blog called In Worship and on it was a Post called “Are you a Consumer.” I want to make sure that credit is given where credit is due, so I believe this blog pointed back to this web page. This being fair and nice to each other thing can be time consuming and tedious and a real bit of work, but it’s what we are supposed to be all about – isn’t it? Well with all of the official business out of the way – and a special thanks to Brett and Joshua for being my inspiration today.
Let’s talk about Production vs. Consumption –
Ya-ttitude Style!
The “thought-inducing” quote was simple – by Albert Hsu.
“The opposite of consumption is production. It takes far more time and energy to create something than to consume something. It takes a novelist a year to write a book that someone can read in a few days… [Often] our only recreational activities are actions of consumption.”
Now that statement taken at face value might just be a “pat on the back” for Mr. Hsu and the amount of time it takes to write is book(s) and the amount of time he believes it takes to read them. Or maybe he was trying to create that new Buzz word that is all the rage – Prosumer – the combination of Producer and Consumer – but then again – depending on the person using it and the article you read – sometimes it means Professional and Consumer and that would just throw that whole idea out the window – so damn him – what was he trying to tell us?
Prosumer – the combination of a producer and consumer – shouldn’t that be what we are all about? Well we all have to consume to live – and we all have to produce to live – so be we all prosumers? The real big question here is what are we consuming and what are we producing. I have read the phrase “crap in – crap out” a few times over the last day and a half, as I thought about how to write this and what I wanted this to be written about. And I have decided that in all its simplicity – it is quite the statement.
The Golden Rule notwithstanding – there is some definite thought-inducing magic in that simple quote (both perhaps).
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”– A definite Prosumerish statement.
Think about it - if you consume all good things - shouldn’t you be more than able to produce “good things.”
Production: In the simplest of terms we were “produced” and given life.
How we consume our lives and how we allow our lives to be consumed is much deeper a statement.
What we consume during our lives and what we allow ourselves to consume is a much more important statement.
Are our lives consumed with positive thoughts, creating positive results making a positive world?
Are we consumed by negative thoughts, always dwelling on the negative, spewing negative ideas and being the downer who needs the over-abundance of cheap hooch to temporarily delay the inevitable?
Remember – Negative begets negative – do not be negative – stay away from the negative words, thoughts and people. Give those negative vibes a positive spin, make sure you surround yourself with positives, as much as you possibly can. (Hey – I live in the real world too – I know that it is possible – give it a try and see for yourself)
That may be the difference between the products that are the result of our consumption.
Is what is left over after our lives are consumed pure waste material – or is there something special there – something that will live on.
Have you allowed you life to be consumed by a plan, an aim or a goal to leave a mark on society; a bright, cheery and positive mark?
Have you gone out of your way to make a difference, lend a helping hand, volunteer or spread a positive outlook.
Have you consumed positive energy and given back positive energy. Do you surround yourself with all the good things that life has to offer and in turn produce within yourself the greatest gift you can give back – a fantastic relative, friend, associate and human being.
Remember if you are consuming more from society then you are giving back – there will be a shortage, so be sure to spread the wealth! Give back as much – Give back more than you consume – It is the one thing that opens the door (no KEY needed) to your success – to your future – to your BRIGHT and SUCCESFUL Future!
BTW: This can be as simple as saying “Bless You” when someone sneezes or “Thank You” when someone holds the door for you. It does not have to be grandiose – it has to be genuine. It starts with the right Ya-ttitude – a Positive Ya-ttitude.
And then grows and develops into a YA-TTITUDE!
Interesting concept… Indeed
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Ya-ttitude: Mail Call
March 27, 2008
I recently received this comment in regards to the Procrasti-NATION posts.
I understand where you are coming from. Yet I believe procrastination whether it’s a virtue or a vice is totally dependent on the context. In many cases, we do not like to do something and push it for later, for reasons that we understand or we don’t, somehow there would be something that holds us back…its at times like these, to go against our normal pressure to act and resolve, that I advise that we stop and ponder. Indeed, procrastination is our intuitive mechanism asking for time…and I think it’s many times wiser to listen to it.
The western concept of action and indeed mindless action and speed and goals and targets and such has created a society where time has lost its beauty and man is just a small cog in a mindless machine processing life in quantity rather than quality. So whilst, its important to do what you should and must do, its important to heed to your intuition and that small voice which asks for a delay…not listening to it may get you a small tick on your to do list, but you will never know what is lost and what could have happened had you waited.
Finally, procrastination would have saved billions of dollars and tens of thousands of lives if Bush had procrastinated… hundreds of lives would have been saved had those cops not shot first and looked later in tense situations…
This crazy need for speed and to get things done has its rewards but also has its costs, which we don’t or do not want to calculate…procrastination would indeed help the world to consider life more peacefully and holistically.
Harish
My first reaction was that this was more a “poking fun” email at the whole Procrastination theory. But boy was I wrong. This is a serious email, from a serious member of the Card-Carrying Cartel of Procrasti-NATION. This is a big one boys and girls. I am going to have at it, and then I want to read what you have to say about it as well!
Vice or virtue; totally dependent on context:
Imagine that – vices could be shrugged off based on context – too cool. Better not tell my wife though. Procrastination is what it is – putting off till a later time what you should be doing now; but for purposes of this email – let me define procrastination…
pro?cras?ti?nate ?
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To put off doing something, especially out of habitual carelessness or laziness.
Still say – please do not tell my wife – because if I can get away with carelessness or laziness and pass it off as a virtue – man-oh-man would my life become a waste! But a virtuous waste!
So in what context can we say that being lazy or careless becomes a virtue? I am still thinking…
Push it off till later: Sometimes we know why – Sometimes we don’t:
Well at least we are staying cognizant. I know that many people argue the point that “everything that happens does not have to have a reason.” But this is really pushing the point. I think we are confusing instinct, or gut feelings maybe even, dare I say, intuition with procrastination. There is a huge difference. Stopping to think over a situation is not a crime, nor is it procrastination. Pushing that situation off to another time, because we just do not feel like doing it – that is procrastination. I agree, we need to listen to those inner voices and feelings. As we grow more and more experienced those voices and feeling become better and better at warning us about things to think twice about. Is that procrastination by decision – I think not!
Mindless actions of Western Culture/ Lost Beauty / Small Cogs and what we may have missed out on:
There is definitely a lot to ponder there; so one step at a time. One of the first traits of a successful person – and that does not matter how you decide to define your own success – is to define your goals and give them targeted dates. Whether you are aspiring to be a Doctor or working on your tan at the beach – both as a set goal and time table if you are going to be successful at it. Staying out to long in the sun and you get burned – so that mindlessness that you went with – as opposed to creating a plan of action and a set time table – well it did not work well did it now?
I wonder why anyone would think about not watching a great sunset or your children growing up. If you successfully plan out your days, weeks and life – you miss nothing. Try a Basic plan like creating a three-part day is a great place to start. 8hrs of work, 8 hrs of sleep and 8 hrs to enjoy life – however you see fit – great place to start. I work hard, I have plans and goals and aims, I try my hardest to not put anything off (I mean we are all human) but I do not allow the beauty in my life to be lost. Baseball games with the boys (even Wrestlemania this weekend – In Orland0 – wonder if that can be construed as a waste of time – But it is my time with the kids – so beauty gained – not lost) college-searching with my daughter and sunsets at the pool with my wife – all great things to do, and they even are part of my plan. I read great books at lunch and enjoy a great cup of coffee and some Florida sunshine – and still get my work done. One of the great ways to accomplish this is to try to do that ONE item on you to-do list that you really do not want to do as your first item of the day – every day. Try if for one month – and watch how easily it became habit and now is the way you start your day. Once the crap is out of the way – every day is a grand day!
You’re a small cog – when you think small. Think Big, plan big, work big and you will be the engine that runs it all, not just a jammed gear in the workings.
I wonder - if I waited and missed out – would I know? Just as easy an arguable point as waiting to find out what it was I missed out on. Odds are I missed out on an opportunity that I cannot get back. And if you acted and made a mistake – so what – you learned, you got up, brushed yourself of and went back to work, smarter for the event. It is a rare occasion that greater things happen from waiting – success does not wait for anyone – it has its own fast-acting time table – catch it before it passes you by!
Billions of dollars and thousands of lives – shoot first, ask questions later!
I really am not going to bring my political stance or anyone else’s into this argument – not fair and not going to get us anywhere. Hind sight is a wonderful tool. It allows all the procrastinators to sit on there middle of the fence and point at all those on either side screaming “I told you so!” How many lives would have been lost if we did not invade? I do not know – would history have gone in another direction – would Iraq have acquired weapons powerful enough to do some real Mid-East damage? Would he have lit the match that started a war in the Middle East without America’s involvement? I do not know and neither do you – and those great experts. This I can say – we have the best system of Government in the World, and the people doing what they do best did what they thought was best, we put them there to do it and they did. I am not going to go any further on the political front. But – check history for wars and battles started because of the inability to make a clear cut decision and those that never happened because one was made!
Cops that shot first – another touchy subject. I have quite a few friends who are police. I wonder if I received a phone call from one of their wives or kids telling me to come to their funeral because he did not shoot first – how I would feel. We live in a tough world. I cannot count how many fewer people would be dead or how many more would be if you asked first vs. shot first – and the real tough part there – is neither can anyone else.
You can not calculate the many things in life – but what you can be sure of – there is no advantage to waiting till tomorrow to do something that you could have gotten finished today – easy - to paraphrase on your context: You waste time - you let the beauty pass YOU by - because you have to do it tomorrow - when you could have been enjoying your day!
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