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There is just so much interest over such a small word. The curious emails and notes I have received has definitely
pushed me into writing this piece a little faster and releasing it a little earlier than I had originally planned. Seems I somehow piqued the interest of some and then there is always my “agent” who keeps pushing me to write and write so more.
Now to start this off on the right foot, I think we will bring my favorite author Napoleon Hill back for a quick visit. I will quote some of his wisdom as my lead in and then we are off to talk about sex.
“The emotion of sex bring into being a state of mind.” And “Because of ignorance on the subject, this state of mind is generally associated with the physical and because of improper influences to which most people have been subjected in acquiring this knowledge of sex, things essentially physical have highly biased the mind.”
The desire of (not for) sex is the most powerful of desires. When this desire drives one, just about anything imagined is possible. It really is amazing that when someone is driven by this desire how keen and fine tuned their senses become. Will power, courage, the ability to create and an incredible persistence to accomplish are born of this emotion. Just give it some thought for a moment. When this desire becomes strong and the need for sexual contact overwhelms someone, often caution is thrown to the wind, and people freely run the risk of the loss of fame, fortune and even life to indulge of it. Think now what harnessing this energy could do. Think about what redirecting that energy into something different would allow you to accomplish.
We all know that sex is an amazing source of energy; an enormous source of focus, concentration and direction; so why not redirect it every so often.
Napoleon Hill, as well as many others called this the “transmutation of sexual energies.”
Nice!
Doesn’t than make it sound so scientific, so psychological and so very professional. I think it is quite simple to apply and something that will take us all to a whole new level, a new level of you!
Definition Time: Transmute: Changing or transferring of one element or energy into another.
See there – I told you, it is really no big deal.
O.K. – Let me just step back a minute and set a foundation. The emotion of sex has many positive possibilities. I can think of three constructive possibilities that we need for this discussion.
And now back to the regularly scheduled programming:
“Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby!”
The transmutation of sexual energy definitely calls for some major will power – that much is for sure. But the rewards for your will power are world-changing. Some of the world’s greatest buildings, museums, cathedrals, universities, paintings and music have been created by some of the greatest Artisans ever – using this technique. Now… It’s your turn.
The desire for sexual expression is natural, it is inborn and it is instinctual. It is a desire that cannot and should not be hidden or eliminated. What you need to do is give it an alternate form of expression; a form of expression that can benefit the mind, the body and the soul. We already are quite aware of the facts that if it is not given this alternate form, it will seek out an outlet that is purely physical. And while this is a channel that needs to be satisfied as well, the alternate channel can satisfy more than just the physical pleasures. (And once you satisfy a few mental pleasures and use it to build a dossier of your future, you can go back and still enjoy the physical)
Someone said that “a river may be dammed, and its water controlled for a time, but eventually, it will force an outlet.” This is exactly the case of the energy of the emotion of sex, so use it to your advantage and refocus its strength into something other than the physical every so often. Think about this for a minute, that sexual energy you feel often drives you to do amazing things when you do not even realize it. How many of you select a position on the treadmill where you can see a great body in front of you. You seem to be able to run faster, longer and with less pain as long as you have focus on that “body” in front of you. Simple, maybe, but I am pretty sure you get the point. Hey, I’ll be the first to admit I seek a great “backside” to focus on when I am running at the gym, and thank you whoever you are each and every day. (I hope no one at the gym actually reads this)
Now think how incredible a person you will become once you take this transmutation (that you already know about and do), and start to focus your energies into a creative outlet. Focus your desire into genius. I am not telling you to become celibate so you can write the next great American Novel. What I am saying is that every so often, try to use that power, that drive, and that feeling and convert into something positive. Whatever you decide that positive is - is always up to you. Build a model airplane with your children, re-sod the yard, or write your next blog post, and so on and so on. The focus is yours to chose, but the desire has to be yours to focus.
Scientific Evidence as given us these two facts:
The emotion of sex is an irresistible force against which little can get in the way of. There is no “immovable” body meeting the force of sexual desire. That immovable body – is getting moved. Use the emotion to drive you to greatness. 
To accomplish your dreams, desires and goals and then, enjoy the rest of the night!
Next time?
I think we need to play some Mind Games…
Ben
; ?>)
October 2nd, 2008 at 2:34 pm
Holy crap! That was one hell of a write up - and talk about powerful… me thinks you were practicing some transmutation of energy of your own there :0)
You raise some very interesting points - and this is going to become my next quote of the week ““a river may be dammed, and its water controlled for a time, but eventually, it will force an outlet.”
2 thumbs up!
October 2nd, 2008 at 2:38 pm
Thanks Melissa - My Agent agrees with you
I think I could be the only person who made sex sound boring… But useful nonetheless
Ben
October 2nd, 2008 at 3:14 pm
Fantastically written and powerful ta’boot!
We already are quite aware of the facts that if it is not given this alternate form, it will seek out an outlet that is purely physical.
I am not sure I want to show this to my spousal unit..
October 2nd, 2008 at 3:31 pm
@ Susie: You know your spousal unit will be great with it. Remember you can use the transmutation in Bed as well as out… think think think!
October 2nd, 2008 at 8:13 pm
Well written Ben.
You really emphasised the power of sexual energy and the hardest thing to do now, is how to focus that energy and motivation.
One ingredient certainly is will power and mind control. We can however, use the energy of sex during sex, to tap into the subconscious mind and by pass the mind (that thinks it is in control). The real power comes into play when we can harness the subconscious. Napoleon also talks about this in his book Think and Grow Rich.
So we can use sex energy and the concepts of sexual transmutation in and out of the bedroom!
October 2nd, 2008 at 8:31 pm
@ST - Gotta Love your name there… And you are quite correct - Those who read between the lines and read the LINES. May have figured out - use it in and out of bed!
Ben
October 3rd, 2008 at 12:13 am
Very interesting and great information. I must say that learning this will have a positive effect.
October 3rd, 2008 at 12:14 am
@ Jay - I am glad you enjoyed it - thanks
October 3rd, 2008 at 8:52 am
Very interesting Benny.
It’s always exciting to tap into or become aware of deeper aspects
of one’s self.Great thing to think about on this fine morning with a great cup of coffee.
Glad to see you writing more Excellent.
October 3rd, 2008 at 8:53 am
@ John - Thanks for the push - I actually need to thank many of you - and I can’t as I do not want to forget anyone - so Ya’ll know who you are - those of you who kept telling me to get back - and especially you my agent!
October 3rd, 2008 at 8:56 am
Well now that was some read…but coming from you what do I expect right?
I find it difficult to respond to your posts as I tend to want to ramble… this post speaks volumes about our mind, our emotions/energy, sexual and other wise and the power it holds for our use… many people don’t think about it… we have a powerful tool, it is up to us to use it!
Cheers
PS…You have an agent??? :0)
October 3rd, 2008 at 11:16 pm
@Heather: Ramble on Heather - I always enjoy your writings… thinks… maybe a guest post Heather? Let me know what you think…
Yes - an agent -
Ben
October 6th, 2008 at 12:11 pm
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October 10th, 2008 at 1:33 pm
Benny this is GREAT!!! I just stumbled it. I think this is a concept that gets grossly overlooked. I know it’s one I really relate to. So I was very excited when I came here and read this. YEAH!
I especially relate to this line:
“….start to focus your energies into a creative outlet. Focus your desire into genius. ”
It is so refreshing to see someone writing about this. It truly is a whole new concept for many people and is even often overlooked by the psychology and related profressions. But, as you mention, many creative people through out history understood this principle very well. Great post! Hugs to you, Rob
PS You are doing some great work here. Just keep going!
October 11th, 2008 at 8:30 pm
Thanks Robin. I am glad that it is something you understand and use. It is a very powerful tool, and when used correctly it makes you an unstoppable force. Thanks for the love and support!
Ben
December 4th, 2008 at 9:00 pm
Hey Benny, just found your website.
I’ve read Think and Grow Rich 3 or 4 times, and always found the chapter on sex transmutation interesting.
It seems that Hill lacks a specific technique however, other than using pure willpower to refocus the mind, and to engage in creative activities.
He argues that the great creative and successful geniuses transmuted their sexual desire, but the evidence I’ve seen seems to suggest that many act it out.
How specifically do we “transmute” our sexual desire? Refocusing the mind is basically an ascetic technique, used by monks and magicians for thousands of years to attempt to develop mastery over the mind and emotions.
I personally have found that refocusing the mind can repress sexual desire (and desire generally), while cultivating passion and creative spontaneity (say by taking an improv comedy class, or by practicing spontaneous ecstatic dance and shaking) increases and releases desire but can lead to more acting out.
It’s a serious art to actually transmuting anything–pain, pleasure, desire, aversion, etc.
I’ve found the technique of Core Transformation helpful, as well as Vipassana meditation, but there are many subtleties that are continually in balance.