Holly: Just What the Doctor Ordered
June 20, 2008
Holly: Just What the Doctor Ordered!
I have a blogging friend who I have been reading and working with for some time now
. Her name is Holly and she writes this great personal blog called Holly Traveling- Living with Myself. I have actually been reading her blog longer than I have been blogging. Her most recent post is titled Sucking You In and it gave me one of those “Hmmmms” that can often send me into a writing spree; and I am thankful, because as I am working diligently on finishing up the “Fear of the Loss of Love; Love Connection” Post I am having a “bit of the block.” So this was a great diversion and inspiration; it is right on target for what we have been talking about and working on over the previous few weeks.
The post is almost a perfect review for much of the work we have started to put in place for the road to your ultimate success - your ultimate Ya-ttitudeTM. I could not have written a better example of how we can use all of the Ya-ttitudeTM we have learned and are learning about if I tried. And there is no reason to try, there are so many wonderful people in the world who just need a little direction, a little push, some love and a great big hug - and then they are off to achieving their ultimate success.
Ya-ttitudeTM-ism: Ya-ttitudeTM will give you A little direction, a little push, some love and a great big hug everyday; come and get yours - remember to give your too!
Holly started her post with an ad-of-sorts. Yes she was looking for someone who could either get her some thick skin or maybe let her know just how one could acquire or grow this thick skin. See it seems that she has allowed others to control the one thing she has full ownership of and the one thing that all of us can control completely; Our Minds. One of the ideas that all us are working towards developing in order to reach our ultimate success is the knowledge that we control our mind. We do not allow anyone in there without our permission and we block out - lock out - all negatives.
Remember: No one can hurt your feelings without your cooperation, willingness and permission!
No one can cause you to have any kind of emotional reaction without your first giving them permission to do so. You alone are responsible for your feelings and emotions. When you know what you plan to do with your life, you will not allow annoying situations to deter you from your goals for long. If you set ambitious goals for yourself and work enthusiastically toward them, you will quickly realize that you don’t have time to allow petty annoyances to upset you and keep you from your objectives. —Napoleon Hill
When we read the 4-Step Plan to Success we realize that one of the most important steps in being successful is the ability to keep your mind tightly closed to all negative influence. Those negative influences can come from places you least expect; friends, family and acquaintances. Stay away from the naysayers, the gloomy Gus and the wet blankets. Do not let anyone rain on your parade. You are working to be the best you can be and you know exactly what you want to do and are working hard on getting there. Keep yourself surrounded by positive and you will get positive and when you get positive, you will be able to give positive. You need to remember it is all about the Give and Take in life, which is that which will get you to where you want to be.
Ya-ttitude-Faith: Positive Faith through the removal of negatives that are blocking the flow of your faith to both your conscious and sub conscious mind.
I think one of the simplest things you need to keep in your mind-arsenal is this thought: Those who are trying to embarrass and criticize you are suffering from their own fears, a general lack of self confidence and are in desperate need of some Ya-ttitudeTM. If you work your way back up this article you can give them a little push, some direction, show them your love and never forget the hug. It will change their perspective and their attitude.
As Holly continues on she really takes her time to point out the difficulties in growing this thick skin and just how hard that it would really be to do. And she is not wrong. But it is not “thick-skin” per se that one needs but instead the tools of success in one’s first-aid kit of life that would be of much better use. You need to learn a few simple things and then practice them, until you have them down to a science. This is a good time to read the series on Concentration. There are a few posts and each of them are filled with exercises that are designed to fine tune the mind, the power of your will, your concentration and your Ya-ttitudeTM. It will become part of you and you will know exactly how to react and how to act whenever one of these negative situations attempt to infiltrate your guard.
I know that Holly has been really trying hard to fight the forces of procrastination and the issues with motivation. She has been diligent in her efforts to put forth a maximum effort at all times and that is really what we all need to do - always! Of course we are going to make some mistakes, but the only mistake you can ever make is not continuing on. Making a mistake should be looked upon as just a simple step in the recipe to success. The mistake is a clear instruction of just how NOT to do it next time. So it is not a mistake but a guide to your ultimate success. The biggest problem you could have is the inability to make a decision. Curing Abulia or the inability to make a decision is a key to your success. Don’t worry so much about the specific decision but think about making the decision and then carrying it through. You can try to develop a Maxim of Effort and it will take you on your mission of learning how to decide quickly and moving forward feeling confident in your decisions.
“So, anyway, if anyone happens to know of where I can find some, just let me know. Until then I’ll just keep on nursing my bruises,” is how Holly’s fantastic post ends and to that I add just this.
Remember: “He who rules his spirit is greater than he who rules a city.”
And that is because you cannot rule the outside until the inside is under control.
So as we have said before - “Sometimes the good of the one outweighs the good of the many.” So you - the one - must learn to understand yourself before you can be of great assistance to the many!
Thanks for the Inspiration Holly!
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Sorry to agree with you so whole-heartedly, when I know you’re looking for some debate…;) I love this article and my favorite line is, “Remember: No one can hurt your feelings without your cooperation, willingness and permission!” Great job, Benny! I will be sure to check out Holly’s blog!
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Hey KC — You are always starting trouble soon I will have to blacklist you this site - no no no Just kidding. Thanks for the heads up. Yes - I love that line - and I use it often. I know it seems simple and easy and corny and cheesey and and and - but really - don’t let others into your head and you can keep on smiling!
Dr. KC. I’m right there with you. That’ is my favorite quote in this posts also. What more does one really need to say? It’s all right there.
It reminds me of my favorite quote I made up a few months back: “You can blame others for your unhappiness or you can be happy.” Let that sink in a bit.
Great post Benny! Gonna stumble and digg it.
Hey Jen - Thanks for the love - And again - it is a simple line - yet so powerful.
It is my party and I will let you in if I want to!
You can be unhappy - but blaming others just delays your happiness.
It’s unaimous. I can’t find anything but eloquent empowerment in this post. Go, Benny. And onward and upward to Holly as well.
Eloquent empowerment - Now there is a tongue twister. I am sure that there are many Hollys in our lives and this is a great way to get all of our Hollys on their respective ropads to success!
Hey Benny
Thought I’d drop by and say Hi, I apreciate what you are saying here, and see how we can all benefit from it. Regarding the section of your post: Remember: No one can hurt your feelings without your cooperation, willingness and permission!
It seems easier said than done, but myself being a victim of one of the most humilitating and degrading and shameful crimes a person can endure in life…the advice seems meaningless most of the time.
But you give me hope, thanks for that
Thanks for stopping by Kat. My understanding of your situation is quite limited, and I appreciate your kind words, perhaps…
GREAT ACHIEVEMENT IS BORN OF A STRUGGLE.
“Our strength grows out of our weakness,” said Ralph Waldo Emerson. “Not until we are pricked and stung and sorely shot at, awakens the indignation which arms itself with secret forces.” Strife and struggle can inspire you to overcome adversity and to propel yourself to real achievement. View every struggle as an opportunity for personal growth. It is the struggle itself, not the result that builds character. If you know you are right, stay the course even though the whole world seems to be against you and everyone you know questions your judgment. When you prevail-and you eventually will if you stick to the job-they will all tell you that they knew all along you could do it.
Welcome Home
Ben
In 4H we learn by doing. And I have taught all my 4H kids that we learn just as well from failure as we do from success. I have also taught them that failure provides important feedback that can help insure the next effort we make will be a better one than the last.
We achieve our goal by moving forward one step at a time and by making course corrections when required. But we can’t get anywhere at all if we aren’t willing to take those steps forward.
In your post above I see this validation of my approach. You say: “Of course we are going to make some mistakes, but the only mistake you can ever make is not continuing on. Making a mistake should be looked upon as just a simple step in the recipe to success. ”
Thanks so much for reminding me of all my life lessons which I’m frequently inclined to forget.
Best wishes to you and to Holly too.
TT - You are very correct and I am glad that I was able to help affirm your thought proccess and your actions. We all learn from our mistakes, thre is no great failure except for the one who does not continue on from their mistake. Use it - embrace it - learn from it and continue forward!
I so needed to read that .
Benny that was awesome.Thanks
Hope everyone has a great weekend:)
I am glad it helped you John. And you enjoy your weekend as well!
You know your reading something quite powerful when the hairs stand up on the back of your neck and you read faster. I just had one of those moments.
That was great Benny and I like the extra effort you sent Kat’s way.
@Terry - Thanks for the props. I am glad you had one of “those” moments - and I am even happier It was something that I wrote that sent it your way! As far as Kat is concerned - Like I said - I have limited to no knowledge of her situation(s) - but I will always be there if she needs someone to talk to and work things through!
B
Hey Benny,
Nice post. I can testify to keeping the negs away at all cost. Positive thoughts and efforts wiith an attitude of gratitude… I believe they helped me when I had cancer and I keep them close to me at all times. I wouldn’t let anyone say or do anything negative around me.
LOL I flat out told family and friends you better make me smile, laugh, and be happy…hehe. Or don’t even bother coming around me. I had to keep telling my self Chemo was my FRIEND although it sucked to high heaven!!!!! Happy to say I am cancer free since Oct.23 2007 and that’s my story and I’m sticking to it…hehe.
And a hug can always make my day! As for happiness… Happiness is a habit you learn by thinking of others before yourself…..well just my 2 cents worth. Again it was a pleasure reading your wonderful post Benny.
P.S.
When someone says or does something against me I just keep one word in my thoughts…..KARMA, Karma, KARMA my definition ( What goes around comes around!) This also keeps me pretty happy…lol.:))
Once again, a very powerful post. You’re a very effective mentor on how to achieve a life governed by positive factors. I still strive and I’m still not there. Do you think it’s because I am a very sensitive person?
@ the_sphinx - Thank you very much - I try to be the best that I can be - I am glad that I have had an effect on you and your life. Your sensitivity works both ways. It is just a matter of fine tuning. Because you are sensitive you believe (get rid of this) that you can be effected - but because of your sensitivity (work on this) you will be able to react quicker and better than most. Go back a few posts and read up on the “concentration excercises.”
It is my pleasure to have been working with you and look forward to continuing!
Ben
I often find inspiration from other bloggers. Not so much in the theme of writing, just the fact that something “clicks” when I read their post, and it leads to who knows where. It is that or maybe I have ADD
You are so right! I find my inspiration in the strangest places. Other blogs are a read for me everyday - but every so often - BINGO! Something has my writing for hours. The Holly-Post… I had to stop myself - or it would have been a chapter in my upcoming book, by itself!
Ben
I agree! This great Benny! The only thing I would add is to make sure we LOVE ourselves…always. Through our mistakes, our ups and downs, our self judgments….especially when others are judging us. In fact the more we can REALLY look at ourselves and see that we are a miracle in existence. Or worded another way: if one believes in their God or Creator or the miracle of evolution, then we are a creation of our God or Creator. One could go so far as to say we ARE the Creator! In light of THAT, then who are we to let anyone (including ourselves) put us down? Are we then not putting down the Divine? Who are we to let in anything but the most joyous thoughts and beliefs about who and what we are. I think when I can realize/feel that I am God, I am the Creator, I am ALL of LIFE, I am the Divine…. then I realize/feel that I am safe, loved and very deserving of love… I am LOVE.
I realize this may be a bit esoteric and unclear here but hopefully some of what I am trying to convey will get across. In other words, who I am to judge or let anyone else judge this amazing creation of life? I must be very aware of what I let into my sacred space. Whether that comes through my eyes, my ears, my senses, etc. I must consciously choose wisely what I am letting into the sacred space of my mind, spirit and soul.
Hugs, RainforestRobin
Thank you Benny.
It really is interesting that you say that - as - I mentioned I had a bit of the block where the next post was concerned - and as I finish it up and will get it on later - it really talks about having to know and love yourself to be able to trust and love and work with others.
Great insight Robin!