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Concentration 102: Desire
Desire is an important topic where it is related to your success. You will have noticed that I have touched on the subject many times during the writings, starting right from the first post: The 4-Step Plan to Success until this one here; and be sure we will be talking about it many more times. Desire, Your desire is one of the 4 secrets to your success. You really need an emotional desire backing everything you do in order to be successful. This is neither the time nor the place to go at tings half-hearted. Your success will be and is driven by your desire. It does not matter how and what you define your ultimate success; just know that desire is a leading factor in its achievement. Desire is what will bring “it” home for you! Yes, you are correct, there are other major attributes to your success; Desire is one, but of course your written plan, your Master Mind group and your mind shut off of all negative influence are your big four. Persistence in all four of these will get you where you want to be; but your desire to do it, be it and live it will make it happen.
Desire which is one of the hardest emotions to control, as it can bring as much negative into your life as positive if not controlled correctly, is a perfect place to discuss a new exercise for you to work on and perfect on your road to Ya-ttitude.
Concentration on Desire; a Ya-ttitude Adjustment
It is very natural to want to show and tell others all about what you know and what it is you are working on in your everyday life. By working on controlling these urges you will find a fantastic way to concentrate and strengthen your desires into a useful tool for your future.
Remember: You have a full plate of business to take care of in your life, so wasting time on idle gossip or being braggadocio is just not the focus you are looking for if you want to be the best you can be at all times.
The news you gather about others will serve you best locked behind closed doors of the mind. In both your short term and your long term you will be best served with keeping this info to yourself (of course circumstances will change this - but only in rare instances.) If you hear good news, fight the urge there as well - control yourself in both instances. This will really work your ability to control your desires and once you have the ability to control your desires you will attain the ability to focus it to greater use as well; your greater good and greater success.
If you get excited from good news try this. Fight the urge to tell the first person you meet all about the information. I know that this will require all of your will power to fight that desire, but work it, work it and make it happen; especially if this is a habit of yours. Work hard on your will power - I know you can do it and you know you can do it - we both can’t be wrong! Now once you feel you have it under control and the urge has passed and you have gone a while without spreading the news, go ahead and feel free to tell someone. But be sure you have overcome that desire; you have fought those urges and were able to tuck them away and move on! Be sure you have your emotions under control and in check and then go ahead and talk about it. Of course this works the same way with new that is not pleasant. Fight that urge, stow the information away behind those doors of the mind and when you are sure you have complete control then and only then you can share the news.
Say to yourself: “Nothing is going to cause me to lose control; I will tell no one - I am strong of will and desire and I can do this” Make it personal - Add your name in there - Talk to yourself as if you were doing this to someone else. Drive the control home! YOU Can do it! We know you can - don’t we!
You will find these experiences will benefit you in all phases of life. You will be looked upon as the cool-headed under-control leader, or that level-headed person we all need to go to when we need guidance. You will become that go-to guy in your life and in your Master Mind group. You will have taken another step towards your success and your Ya-ttitude.
Of course you must always look at the specific circumstance when you work this control, obviously there are times you need to react quick and move forward with the information; these exercises will make that quite clear to you.
You were given two ears and one mouth for a reason - work that reason to your advantage.
Remember: “He who rules his spirit is greater than he who rules a city.” -
And that is because you cannot rule the outside until the inside is under control.
; ?>)
May 13th, 2008 at 11:23 am
Some of cannot help ourselves but to read blogs and post comments though
May 13th, 2008 at 12:18 pm
Thanks Barry - But as an example - I held off and fought the urge to immediatley post your comment and waited until I was under control - and then put it up…
Not so hard to do!
May 13th, 2008 at 1:45 pm
I’m a feisty, sensual and emotional women to self control is always a challenge for me. I really like these “deep thinking” posts and practical advice that you put before your readers because I’m benefiting from them.
Success = acknowledging that both our attachments (desires) and aversions are ego driven;
seeking still-point (practicing meditation) so we can operate consciously with focus;
choosing to lead a balanced joyful life;
accepting people as is, without any expectations and without trying to change them (change comes from within);
being both self controlled and self forgiving.
The challenges are enormous but the rewards are worth the efforts.
May 13th, 2008 at 2:11 pm
Your comment(s) is so “to the very essence” of what I am working on. The sooner you realize that your desires and your aversion and your procrastination and your longings etc are all drivin from within yourself the faster you will walk down the road to success.
You are the guiding post to your success!
Ben
May 13th, 2008 at 3:12 pm
great advice
May 13th, 2008 at 3:18 pm
I wonder Amy - How and Why you feel this is great advice. Please let us all understand how you may use this for the success of your dreams!
Ben
May 13th, 2008 at 6:23 pm
Ben…
Desire may be one of 4 keys to success but it is in my opinion one of the most important keys,without desire we would loose interest it our goal…the more desire we have the more likely we are to succeed! We just have to use the desire to best advantage.
Our mind is a powerful tool which we must learn to control, because our mind controls what , how, why and when we act/think…in other words desire, emotion, ego, etc….
When I was younger I struggled with self-control…regarding many aspects of my life…I still struggle with speaking my mind…
“He who rules his spirit is greater than he who rules a city.” This statement says it all to me!!!
Cheers
May 13th, 2008 at 6:31 pm
Hi Heather - It is so true. The mind controls the body. With my mind I can control my body. With My mind I can control myself. It just may be the most important key… Or stay tuned… for what the most important key is in an upcoming post…
Ben
May 13th, 2008 at 7:45 pm
I have to modulate on the phone>I’m always saying after a call “wow I was on fire” and the other person probably thinks I’m a nut but I usually get the job one way or the other.
Keep up the great work. I have to talk with Benny I have a project that would be PERFECT for you.
email me at jsinkeywest@gmail.com and I’ll email ya back my number.
It’s no pitch mlm marketing crap believe that Keep Up the Great work BENNY
I stumbled ya a few for good measure
May 13th, 2008 at 8:28 pm
I will shoot you an email in a bit John.
I know the I am on fire line - Live it everyday!
I like projects…
Ben
May 14th, 2008 at 10:31 am
ref comment # 5. I’m in the process of opening up a bike store. and its a lot of hardwork. but need the desire to keep it going
May 14th, 2008 at 12:09 pm
If it is really what YOU want to do - then you will feel the desire grow more and more each day. Work on that dream Amy - I know you can do it - so you do too!
May 14th, 2008 at 12:10 pm
WOOT for this fantabulous blog!!! Great advice on self-improvement.
I must share this link with my family.
JJ
May 14th, 2008 at 12:52 pm
Thank you very much…
And share share away!
Ben
May 14th, 2008 at 1:37 pm
I know I am guilty of procrastination at times, and I don’t let my desires rule when they should!
You have opened my eyes somewhat with this post. Thanks!
May 14th, 2008 at 1:45 pm
Procrastination needs to be eliminated -
check this out…
http://ya-ttitude.com/blog/2008/03/20/ya-ttitude-battle-lines-are-drawn/
Your desire will get you past the procrastination on onto your greater success.
May 14th, 2008 at 10:47 pm
Boy Ben, I don’t know how I missed this post. WOW! You are one sharp cookie, not only is this post great advice but your responses to the comments here are right on the mark. This is such an AMAZING site. I am always astounded at what I find here, over and over again. You are incredibly wise.
I strongly relate to your words: “You really need an emotional desire backing everything you do in order to be successful. This is neither the time nor the place to go at things half-hearted. Your success will be and is driven by your desire.”
In my own life it seems the more I do what I really LOVE the more I want to do it and the more successful I am at it.
Oh, there is such juicy “stuff” here. Thank you my friend.
May 14th, 2008 at 11:30 pm
My Dear Naked In Eden Robin…
I would blush but I gave that up. I am so glad that you are now quoting me - laughs. I have been to your site and I know that love you have! Loving what you do makes you so much more than you could have ever imagined. Often I tell people that if you cannot find a job doing something that you love - create it and start a new job/company!
Ben
May 15th, 2008 at 3:35 am
Thanks for this advice.Meditation is the best way to keep our mind under control.
May 15th, 2008 at 10:06 am
One way - Not the best way. Concentration and Will power are two better ways to control your mind!
May 16th, 2008 at 11:45 am
It can’t be wrong all the time to share good news. The other day a friend and I were talking and business isn’t going well. After a while, he said, “Give me some good news. There’s got to be something.”
That was an invitation, I thought, for me to refer to a bit of approval I’d received after years of striving.
What he’d done was so gracious, opening that door for me, that I’ve resolved to ask people regularly: what’s good in your life?
May 16th, 2008 at 11:49 am
It is never bad to share good news. I only ask that you temper the enthusiasm as an excercise in control. Good news is positive news and positive is the way all things should be done. It is part of our Ya-ttitude.
May 18th, 2008 at 8:57 am
The most two simple words for success in my humble opinion are desire (as you say) and passion. After that, it’s up the individual to execute until they are indeed successful!
Thank you for your amazing insight as always!
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
May 18th, 2008 at 10:15 am
Desire and Passion when used in connection with your PLAN is the way to your success. Many people confuse desire and passion for the same - but they are not - though they need to be your driving forces…
June 12th, 2008 at 8:59 am
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